tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post8079214752148225672..comments2024-02-16T19:07:42.535-08:00Comments on Darcy's Heart-Stirrings: Confessions of a Free-Spirited MomDarcyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-30492244463122606272013-03-04T14:10:22.909-08:002013-03-04T14:10:22.909-08:00Marie, thank you for all your comments! :) I have ...Marie, thank you for all your comments! :) I have tons of resources and links for AP parenting. Things that have helped me in my journey toward grace-based parenting. Maybe I'll do a post on that....just my favorite links and resources on parenting. :)Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-35877373370075726662013-03-04T12:47:21.094-08:002013-03-04T12:47:21.094-08:00Thank you SO much for this post it is exactly what...Thank you SO much for this post it is exactly what I needed to hear tonight! I am a new mom, my daughter is 4 months old, and I've been struggling so much with the big parenting issue. I feel so guilty for not "disciplining" her yet and have already been accused of spoiling her because I hold her too much. I'm taking a more AP approach as well, I didn't plan on it but it just happened. We are co-sleeping and lately I have been feeling pushed that I need to move her to a crib now but I just don't think we are ready. Thank you for the boost of confidence, it's so different being a mom, it has a lot of insecure moments and having others judge your style doesn't help. You are officially my new favorite blogger. I'm so happy I found this place!! Sorry for leaving a massive amount of comments, I'm just enjoying it too much!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623118246906724359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-28972903479795813732012-02-24T16:51:26.813-08:002012-02-24T16:51:26.813-08:00The one thing I have learned through my years of p...The one thing I have learned through my years of parenting is that there is no "right way". Each child needs parenting tailored to their needs and personality. And parents are different too. I have use both the cry it out and AP. I have found what works for me. <br />Thank you for saying so many things on my heart. I think the light is JUST starting to dawn for my man and me. We have a long road ahead of us. A lonely road at least until we make new friends.<br />I look forward to reading more<br />Anonymous for now:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-84442630255455837842011-06-28T12:13:46.462-07:002011-06-28T12:13:46.462-07:00Good post. :) I was all for the "cry-it-out&q...Good post. :) I was all for the "cry-it-out" method...until my little one was born! It just felt wrong. He wasn't crying to manipulate me. He was crying because he was hungry or felt bad. If he's hungry, I feed him. If he feels bad, I comfort him. Now, he's only five months old, so I don't have a lot of experience overall, but it has been a rough five months. He has bad reflux, and we're starting to figure out he's also reacting to foods I'm eating. I would have felt terrible to let him cry it out early on, only to later find out he was crying because he was in so much pain! I do let him whine and fuss sometimes while going to sleep, but not all out cry. He's going to fuss wherever he's going to sleep. He just doesn't like to sleep, lol.<br /><br />Also, he was only going to sleep in our room for the first couple of weeks, while we all adjusted. Yeah. He's still there. And he wasn't going to sleep in our bed, either. He did that sometimes...that mostly stopped when I woke up one morning to him projectile vomiting all over me. Not fun. :P<br /><br />But some of my opinions definitely changed after he was born and my mothering instinct kicked in. It's different for each child, too. I'm sure there's stuff we'll do differently with the next. Because as you pointed out, it's about the child, and there's no "Biblical Parenting Method". There are basic guidelines, about how to treat people in general. 1 Corinthians 13 applies to children just as much as anyone else. But no one method.<br /><br />Lindsay (from HSA)Lindsaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-23265850046878030752011-06-27T18:16:35.694-07:002011-06-27T18:16:35.694-07:00I was raised on the pearls, and now I follow Attac...I was raised on the pearls, and now I follow Attachment Parenting. Like you, it cracks me up that people see AP as something bad, lol! And thanks for pointing out that the Bible does not "proscribe" a child training method - because that's so true, but so misunderstood!Libby Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10562805251128821984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-24140500354480617642011-05-22T17:00:57.629-07:002011-05-22T17:00:57.629-07:00(Here I go again, commenting on a blog about paren...(Here I go again, commenting on a blog about parenting when I'm not a parent- forgive me!)<br /><br /><b>"There's nothing wrong with child-centered parenting. Why did we ever believe there was? Parenting isn't about the parents,<i> it's about the child.</i></b>"<br /><br />While I actually basically agree with your main point of this post (and many of the specific points you make as well,) I wondered about this statement. From what I have learned, good parenting should be about raising your child to become a kind, respectful, well-rounded adult. Parenting that is solely child-centered will not accomplish this, because the kids will grow up thinking the world revolves around them and they can do whatever they want to when they want to no matter who it affects. It really does not sound like you are raising your kids like that, so I'm not sure what definition you are using when you talk about "child-centered parenting." Would you mind clarifying that?Lisa Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12203431445835669909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-42363929736602332892011-04-27T07:55:25.774-07:002011-04-27T07:55:25.774-07:00I LOVE this! Especially the last line. That has ...I LOVE this! Especially the last line. That has been so true in my life. :)raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14659411240699818388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-51476773654269077132011-04-13T18:36:20.657-07:002011-04-13T18:36:20.657-07:00Understood. I'm glad you're that way. :-) ...Understood. I'm glad you're that way. :-) Just wanted to warn you not to let certain people in this movement try to lure you into a trap just as bad as the one you left! I watched a good friend get guilted into doing the cloth diaper thing, and it was disturbing. Not because I care what kind of diapers anyone uses, but because of the guilt.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15728399079739252114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-12680013990443222392011-04-13T14:54:14.731-07:002011-04-13T14:54:14.731-07:00I don't doubt it, Gina. That's why I'm...I don't doubt it, Gina. That's why I'm not really promoting any one "camp" to stake your tent in. Just the freedom to do what is best for your own children. I'm even not AP enough for some....I use disposable diapers *gasp* and my kids watch too much TV and I don't breastfeed past 2 and start un-co-sleeping at 1. :P I'm just trying to encourage people to have freedom in this area and not be stuck in any one way. Regardless of which way that is.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-66598530590120613712011-04-13T11:58:28.219-07:002011-04-13T11:58:28.219-07:00I don't mean to be a wet blanket, but I just f...I don't mean to be a wet blanket, but I just feel compelled to point out one thing: Be aware that sometimes, grace-based parenting advocates get just as militant as biblical parenting advocates, or even more so. I see this with some of the mothers I know, and it troubles me a little. The levels of competitiveness and guilt get absolutely unreal. If you don't co-sleep/baby-wear/cloth-diaper/attachment parent/whatever this group has decided is the best technique at the present moment, you are evil, I tell you, EVIL!!!!!<br /><br />I'm not kidding. I wish I were.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15728399079739252114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-67276134436140500932011-04-11T19:47:40.417-07:002011-04-11T19:47:40.417-07:00"I also think that everything we need to know..."I also think that everything we need to know about parenting, we can get from looking at how God "parents" us. And from following the "one-another" scriptures in regards to our kids."<br /><br />Your thoughts here are my sentiments exactly.Beckyhttp://www.createdtobehis.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-89715551289860485492011-04-06T18:58:52.803-07:002011-04-06T18:58:52.803-07:00Your fourth paragraph is very convicting to me in ...Your fourth paragraph is very convicting to me in a "I know that, but haven't gotten there" sense, in respect to a clean house. I need to lighten up. Thank you.Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-16923175379409555902011-04-06T18:55:55.366-07:002011-04-06T18:55:55.366-07:00I LOVE your third paragraph! Preach on sista!I LOVE your third paragraph! Preach on sista!Incongruous Circumspectionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16232186225573312896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-75096193099411738172011-03-25T08:23:25.463-07:002011-03-25T08:23:25.463-07:00You have made this dad a happy dad. I could not a...You have made this dad a happy dad. I could not agree more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-26607597321865392342011-03-25T08:16:41.656-07:002011-03-25T08:16:41.656-07:00This is THE BEST article I've seen on parentin...This is THE BEST article I've seen on parenting in a very long time!! Thank you!Erika Martin - Stampin' Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15654013636892916062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-50296656566685122652011-03-24T17:51:51.137-07:002011-03-24T17:51:51.137-07:00Amen Darcy, very well said and very true. I wish m...Amen Darcy, very well said and very true. I wish more Christian parents would through out the "how to" books and parent with common sense and grace.<br />Thank you from a Grandma to 9 little onesMeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15081106611030131955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-57569915664267407332011-03-24T07:44:39.037-07:002011-03-24T07:44:39.037-07:00Ben,
That was a beautiful poem and post! I love wh...Ben,<br />That was a beautiful poem and post! I love what you said about children not being slates for us to write on. Thank you so much for sharing that. :)Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-56898804460679931302011-03-24T05:54:46.190-07:002011-03-24T05:54:46.190-07:00Darcy,
Brianna and I aren't as far on our pare...Darcy,<br />Brianna and I aren't as far on our parenting journey as you and Sky are, but we are vocal APers. We personally think that relationships with our kids is the most important part of parenting, and find it very sad that a lot families where the parents are homeschool grads treat their children like they are subhuman, putting so-called "Biblical" authority structures above loving their own children.<br />Brianna just wrote an article on treating babies like humans with real emotional needs; it kind of goes right along with this topic: http://fountainlove.blogspot.com/2011/03/heart-thoughts-in-which-babies-have.html<br />Blessings to you!<br />BenBenjamin Graberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03823803845650320683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-25651670664527633792011-03-24T05:54:43.245-07:002011-03-24T05:54:43.245-07:00A woman after my own heart....A woman after my own heart....Brendahttp://www.shaklee.net/peaceofchangenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-35657155668001736752011-03-22T13:59:08.605-07:002011-03-22T13:59:08.605-07:00What's this? I thought parenting was easy! I&#...What's this? I thought parenting was easy! I'd just snap my fingers and everything would fall into place. Those disobedient, loud, rambunctious kids in McDonalds? Not happening in my family! (BTW, there was a time I seriously thought that kids should be banned from McDonalds because they tended to drive me nuts on my lunchbreak. Can't believe my wife kept a straight face over that one!). Yessiree Bob, I had this parenting thing in the bag. I had it all figured out. <br /><br />That is, until I actually had children. Then parenting got to be a little less of an exact science. :)<br /><br />Blessings, <br /><br />Jim K.Jim K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08201347957307829157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-53823209839236106362011-03-22T13:17:23.137-07:002011-03-22T13:17:23.137-07:00What you said, pretty much all the way through. I ...What you said, pretty much all the way through. I certainly knew a lot more about parenting before I had children.<br /><br />-- SJthe Joneseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15854341910963353734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-59804863531420742032011-03-22T10:39:32.932-07:002011-03-22T10:39:32.932-07:00That is SO GOOD to hear that from a parent! :-) ...That is SO GOOD to hear that from a parent! :-) I love what you said about grace being your "default setting".Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980021913722383831noreply@blogger.com