tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post4300155722419077812..comments2024-02-16T19:07:42.535-08:00Comments on Darcy's Heart-Stirrings: In Which Children Are People TooDarcyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-6697697997403069052013-01-23T16:55:30.098-08:002013-01-23T16:55:30.098-08:00Good for you. But I prefer to make my decisions ba...Good for you. But I prefer to make my decisions based on the leading of God and proven science, not anecdotal evidence. I also have no desire to lead a life you described. Glad you're happy with it, but I wouldn't be.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-61213430628374519702013-01-21T18:36:31.024-08:002013-01-21T18:36:31.024-08:00My kids are grown up and it worked :) Most kids us...My kids are grown up and it worked :) Most kids used to be brought up in the way that I am talking about. They were brought up by the Word of God and the rod. And guess what? They turned out marvelous! I am so proud of all of them! It's called old-fashioned these days but it used to be the norm.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-8895282634244714852013-01-14T17:30:10.423-08:002013-01-14T17:30:10.423-08:00I really don't understand why parents are so t...I really don't understand why parents are so threatened by their children's autonomy. What in the world are they so afraid of? I will consider myself a success if my children are adults who DON'T need me to make their life work. I can't imagine being threatened by my kids' independence. I honestly don't understand it.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-36072785729635120872013-01-14T17:26:56.987-08:002013-01-14T17:26:56.987-08:00Wow, so glad I don't live in your world. I lik...Wow, so glad I don't live in your world. I like mine much better. The one where my kids know their parents value their input and autonomy, where I and my husband are equal partners, and where mutual respect and honor starts with the parents and is modeled for the children to emulate. You can keep your paradigm, but don't be surprised when your kids grow up and write blogs like mine.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-41263157362483475052013-01-14T07:32:48.814-08:002013-01-14T07:32:48.814-08:00Reading this article was like you describing my ch...Reading this article was like you describing my childhood to me! Yikes. If I had a penny for each time my dad said he didn't have to give me a reason for yada yada ya and that I just needed to "obey" because he was "the father" I WOULD BE AN EFFIN MILLIONAIRE! And that wasn't just as a child....that carried on until the day I left home!! <br />Pardon me while I go puke.<br />Parents like mine need to sit back and realize that their children are not their property! We are each our own individual with quirks and oddities and that's what makes this world beautiful. Parents are there to protect and guide not to push and force a child to be someone they are not. You cannot punish a child into respecting and honoring you. You can try. And you may think for a time that it's working but all you're doing is getting lip service. <br />Respect your child and they will respect you back!<br />Great article! Thank you!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08131995987480572700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-12287672242864245992013-01-13T21:01:05.092-08:002013-01-13T21:01:05.092-08:00True, it's because of sin. Authority can be co...True, it's because of sin. Authority can be corrupt and often is. I'm talking about the state of mind that most children have today. Respect is gone. Honor is gone. Children are often lazy and don't give a care. It all starts from a breakdown in the home and then escalates into various avenues in the world around us. If kids don't respect their authority at home, they won't at the job site or work either.<br />But I do want to clarify that I believe children SHOULD obey their parents; no matter what AS LONG AS they are not asking their children to sin against God. (ought to obey God rather than man!). God gave those children to the parents and it's the parents job to raise them up to honor and glorify the Lord. Therefore the children should obey, honor, respect and listen to their parents. Of course, I'm talking about Christian parents here but I also believe it is fully possible to honor even non-Christian parents through most life circumstances.<br /><br />Children who are allowed to get their own way, esp. time after time again, are often the ones that go on to be rather disrespectful in the "real world" and they try to get away with as much as they can for as long as they can. And then when they get in trouble, they are mad at the person who is "punishing" them instead of being remorseful for their sins, wrongdoings etc...<br />Children need a good strong family structure: The father should be the head of the household, the mother is there to "back up" Dad and be involved in the discipline as well. Children need discipline, love and understanding and most of all, they need God! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-23835790925376240512013-01-12T13:50:29.381-08:002013-01-12T13:50:29.381-08:00haven't stopped! I've just been insanely b...haven't stopped! I've just been insanely busy! Glad you stopped by. :) I write when I can or when something screams to be written about. ;)Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-26214276780379638392013-01-08T21:04:01.228-08:002013-01-08T21:04:01.228-08:00Darcy, I hadn't stopped by in a while because ...Darcy, I hadn't stopped by in a while because I thought you had stopped writing. But I'm SO glad I did, because I needed precisely this post today. Thank you!petrushka1611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-66072775468624545202013-01-08T21:02:44.553-08:002013-01-08T21:02:44.553-08:00Really, the world is in the sorry state it's i...Really, the world is in the sorry state it's in because of questioning authority? How about, it's in the sorry state it's in because of sin! And the sorrier the state, the more likely it's come about because of abuse of power...by an authority. <br /><br />The USSR is arguably the sorriest state the world has ever seen, and it was that way because of all-encompassing authority abused by exceptionally vile sinners, who got away with so much more because, yep, you guessed it, there was no questioning allowed. <br /><br />It amazes me how much fundamentalism preached against authoritarian communism, yet has turned right around and adopted the same procedures in dealing with those it requires to be powerless: manipulation, lies, erasing history, unwritten rules, disrespect, accusations of treason, bizarre punishment, enforced powerlessness, even pulling people out of bed in the middle of a night to "discuss" a problem that could easily wait until morning.<br /><br />Think I'm reading too much into things? I'm watching these tactics brutalize my fiancee right now. Live with it for a while and your opinion will change.petrushka1611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-3585382743613228192012-12-29T17:25:24.312-08:002012-12-29T17:25:24.312-08:00"If you can come up with Biblical proof that ..."If you can come up with Biblical proof that children don't have to obey and respect their parents, please share :)"<br /><br />Why would I care to do that? I never said anything of the sort. <br /><br />Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-55401078809168670452012-12-27T17:21:33.021-08:002012-12-27T17:21:33.021-08:00Questioning authority can be dangerous too. Do you...Questioning authority can be dangerous too. Do you ever wonder why the world is in the state it is in today? Why employees don't respect their employers or don't like authority over them? It starts at home. If children aren't taught to respect authority and obey as children, how do you think that will work out in the work place? It doesn't. <br />Authority has its place in the family and in the workplace and in the world. Respect does too. I, know for a fact, of some who disrespected their parents and did not obey their parents *at a young age* and now they are in trouble because they don't respect authority (or the law!).<br />If it doesn't go against the Bible, children should respect and obey their parents.<br />My parents have never asked me to sin or do anything against the Bible. Therefore when I obey them, I am obeying God. He created the order after all: God, Man, Woman.. children<br />"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."<br /><br />http://www.gospelway.com/family/children-authority.php<br /><br />If you can come up with Biblical proof that children don't have to obey and respect their parents, please share :)<br />Likewise, I believe that all parents should isten to their children and discuss all matters with them and show them they are valuable and important and their voices do matter. But as far as the "final say" goes, parents have the final authority; esp. if the kids are under 18. Parents are generally wiser and more mature than their kids and I appreciate the fact that my parents had the final say in a lot of things and saved me a TON of heartache along the way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-78027348048083438072012-12-20T11:51:36.330-08:002012-12-20T11:51:36.330-08:00Loved this post!! Keep writing. :) Loved this post!! Keep writing. :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-67016198594788094342012-12-16T14:20:29.632-08:002012-12-16T14:20:29.632-08:00What's interesting to me is comparing and cont...What's interesting to me is comparing and contrasting it with the discussions I sometimes see in blogs on the "other end of the spectrum"...the "progressive democratic child-centered" folks...where someone will post the suggestion that --gasp-- sometimes discipline and limit setting by parents can be a good thing! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-54808668507142495582012-12-15T11:29:56.925-08:002012-12-15T11:29:56.925-08:00Great post...as usual, Darcy! Well put...it's ...Great post...as usual, Darcy! Well put...it's so sad to me when I teach little children whose parents try to tell me to treat them with an iron fist, like they do at home. It goes so against my grain, and I can't bring myself to do that.Australiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05510520696015203517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-34858391037045421042012-12-14T01:58:05.909-08:002012-12-14T01:58:05.909-08:00Reminds me of my grandmother who yelled at me and ...Reminds me of my grandmother who yelled at me and treated me awful then said I should take it because she's older than me. My dad finally stood up for me and said, "you are both adults."Lana Hopehttp://www.mymusingcorner.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-15614955239332569402012-12-12T19:50:41.114-08:002012-12-12T19:50:41.114-08:00As a teacher, I see first-hand the effects of trea...As a teacher, I see first-hand the effects of treating young people with respect. They will only respond to a teacher that they really know cares for them. It has got to be about a relationship, not a hierarchical pecking order. <br />I think that most of modern-day Christianity has totally missed Jesus' point when he said that we are not supposed to be like the gentiles, who lord it over each other, but we are rather to be like servants. Benjamin Graberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03823803845650320683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-41655732133668402562012-12-12T15:36:46.828-08:002012-12-12T15:36:46.828-08:00Hey there! I miss seeing all my online friends her...Hey there! I miss seeing all my online friends here. :) But, man, life is nuts these days. :P I doubt it'll get better any time soon....Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03702441292981376229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3113535730415912557.post-74271084591060028182012-12-12T15:19:04.561-08:002012-12-12T15:19:04.561-08:00So proud to be your online acquaintance, Darcy. An...So proud to be your online acquaintance, Darcy. Another home run.shadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.com